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My husband and I have recently agreed to opn up our marriage, mainlybecause I am not feeling fulfilled in our marriage, but neither one of us wants to be divorced, a lot of our life is good, and we don't want to break up our sons home. Are any of you living in or ontemplating an open marriage? Thoughts? Comments?

from redrobin, on 07:04pm, 15 Oct, 2009

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i would say that goin too an open marriage because of the lack of sex is goin too make the situation worse.
i would seek profesional help of someone who study sexuality etc.

we ussed too have a show on tv in holland called (better in bed) were they showwed how they worked stuff out.

one of the main things that was brought forward is that if it isn't goin too well its not only the guy who does a bad job.
ussualy the woman adds too the problem as well

from mightydoc, on 12:41am, 02 Nov, 2009
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I feel the idea of an open marriage completely contradicts the point of getting married in the first place. I think mighty doc brings a good idea, you two could try couple's therapy or something along those lines.

from BDubs456, on 09:29am, 02 Nov, 2009
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its like if your sex life is good and your both open too it, it could work.

right now its messed up so opening the borders isn't goin too make it any beter.

from mightydoc, on 01:55pm, 03 Nov, 2009
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thanks for your replies folks. An open marriage is not always because of bad sex, actually he and I had a fine sex life, it is everything else. I am not the same girl he married 15 yrs ago, I need more in my life, and the open mariage sems to be working out ok. Rocky sometimes, but ok. I was hoping to hear from other couples in the same situation. Stats say in the US 6% of married couples live in one form of open marraige or another, i thought for sure I'd find some of them here..lol!

from redrobin, on 10:20pm, 18 Nov, 2009
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I don't think there are any absolutes, but my philosophy is that there are three parts to a real relationship: Sex, companionship and friendship. Its a three-legged stool. You need all three. However, once you mix kids into the picture, its a whole, new, very messy ballgame...

from Dean1, on 02:58am, 21 Nov, 2009
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I have to agree with most of the people on here that it is a bad idea. If you had begun your marriage intending to have it this way then that would have been fine. But you have opened it as a compromise which means its far from perfect.

You say that you want more but does he? Maybe he is just going along with this as he sees it as the only way of keeping you. If thats the cases it may work for some time but at some stage it will explode. I am sure he is jealous as hell, I know I would be.

from Nasty Pervert , on 06:03am, 21 Nov, 2009
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Get some new vibrators and some new roleplay with each other. You can have variety with your hubby if you have an imagination.

from ghopper, on 06:46am, 26 Nov, 2009
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I agree with rob fully!
Get a divorce, i dont agree with open marriages at all!

from Alysia, on 04:48am, 28 Nov, 2009
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closed marriages but open legs...this is the deeper meaning to life...push forward...you will win in her..*the end.

from pogman , on 06:49am, 28 Nov, 2009
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I agree with Dean1...its better to take your fiber and complete the 3 legged stool.

from pogman , on 06:50am, 28 Nov, 2009
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Well I read what people had to say and it's the same situation I'm in. My wife wanted to pursue other things that she had apperantly keep hidden for 15 years. I am jealous alot but I want her happy because I do love her. I think that a open marriage can be good because everyone needs something extra to help there lives along. Just because you go out with others doesn't mean that the marrige u share is over just evolving. There will always be highs and lows but how u deal with them shows even if the other person doesn't see that. I don't agree with divorce it's like quiting what the 2of u share no matter what

from new1xxx, on 11:21pm, 30 Nov, 2009
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I am married and well new to it but my opinion of open marriages...IT IS YOUR MARRIAGE....Do what you want to it as long as you knwo who you really love and come home to in the end...You know waht is best for you...if you can have a fuck buddy single then why cant you have a fuck buddy married...it meands nothing but good sex for everyone...Not only that bring your husband into it too make it fun for the whole family JK...but seriouslly you knwo wahts best for you and your marriage go with your instincts

from Jenkz_2 , on 10:03pm, 09 Dec, 2009
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Well the open marriage has not gone good at all. I find myself being jealous and angry. I even found myself getting to the point that I wanted to do stupid things. I still love my wife no matter what and I don't know what to do. I want our home to be safe and happy for everyone. My wife has said and done hurtful things and I've probably said some bad stuff too but not to the point where I've regreted anything. Am I stupid or dumb for trying to save my marriage when she doesn't want too?

from new1xxx, on 03:13am, 05 Jan, 2010
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I also forgot to say that if she reads this there will always be a way back to me and our marrige when or if u want back.

from new1xxx, on 03:16am, 05 Jan, 2010
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I think the idea of an open marriage is much more appealing than the reality. It's nice to think about but it should be left in the realms of fantasy, use the idea of sleeping with other people to spice up your sex life but don't actually go through with it, once you go down that route there will be no going back. Also, i kind of agree that theres not much point staying married if your both fucking other people.

from ahrdcock, on 03:03pm, 24 Feb, 2010