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why after marrige, the sex stops?

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Been married only 2 yrs this past sept. Together for 6 yrs and id do anything to please her. I'm 26, she's 31. My appetite is still like I was in high school. Hers is just as lousy as it gets. She's not into any kinkiness, and our only position she wants is missionary. To the point, I've only been getting some maybe once a month, and its so damn routine.
I've been searchin forums and pretty much on the borderline of cheating. The thought runs thru my head all the time. I've never crossed the line, ever.
I'm not sure if it has something to do with the miscarriage she had when she was 18. But she is always sore down there, and has more bodily problems. Irregular pediods, sore goodies. I keep tellin her to get checked out, but the doc can figure it out. Any help would be appreciated... thx

from greekguy26, on 10:52am, 10 Nov, 2010

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That's a painfull situation my friend. Firstly, you've got my respects for not cheating. You're a guy and you've got your urges. She on the other hand should have them to, but like you said, something's wrong. I suggest talking about it with her. Tell her (again) that you've got your urges and that getting laid with someone else crosses your mind. A visit to the doc. would be good. I think this has a psychological side. Something from the past, maybe in combination with current events?

from Music91, on 11:21am, 10 Nov, 2010
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Hey thanks music for responding. Well, I do know she says she has no sex drive and never really did. Whenever I talk to her about shit like this, she blows it out of proportion and ill usually just drop it and walk away. Another thing too, she doesn't like oral, receiving or giving. Won't try anal, understandable... I guess I've been cursed for my few years of spectacular sex.

from greekguy26, on 11:41am, 10 Nov, 2010
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Interesting. She blows it out of proporting? That's a reaction in self defence, wether she knows that herself or not, it's a fact. So, she is 'hiding' something. Not on purpose, but there is a reason for this all. All humans have a sex drive, we wan't it as much as we can. If not, somethings wrong.

from Music91, on 11:44am, 10 Nov, 2010
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Well, speaking from a woman's perspective. I have to say that there is something going on that's not good. She should not be so sore like that. If she's having these problems something is wrong. If the doctor she is seeing isn't doing anything about it then she definitely needs to see a different one because its not normal. And I have to say that if she won't try other things to try and please you knowing what it means to you then something is going on. I don't understand women who don't want to please their partner. She should want to please you as much as you try to please her. It should be a mutual things. Not one sided. And if she is blowing up about it then there is something else going on in her head. As music said she may not even realize it. But there is something going on in her head that she may not even be aware of. You have my ultimate respect for not cheating on her. That shows you love her. If it was me I would want you to be completely honest with me. She needs to know your true feelings. The fact that you are to the point where its bad enough these thoughts are crossing your mind. I know it won't be an easy thing to talk about. It never is but if she really loves you then she should be able to understand why you need to tell her these things and she should want to know them. Maybe suggest counseling as an option to try to help with the situation. I wish you good luck and I hope all works out for you.

from HeadGivr77, on 12:09pm, 14 Nov, 2010
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Well-as one the the few older(mature) people here,I can tell you from exp. that you need to make her feel SPECIAL in& out of bed -at home& in public-If you put out the effort--You will get more effort from her& improve your lives' together!

from cuckholddon, on 06:26pm, 02 Feb, 2012
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I hear ya, been married 12 yrs she has had no sexual or affectionate appitite for 5 yrs now. Thats why I'm here almost want to cheat, but would it really be cheating? I'm not neglecting her.

from superglidext01, on 01:58am, 04 Mar, 2012
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usually, after marriage, some (not all) woman starts to see it as a chore, especially if there are kids and the guy is out working, and yeah her sex drive dries up completely. I'd say the original poster is not alone in this respect, but there are a few issues that need to be addressed here...

from A1701, on 05:37pm, 04 Mar, 2012
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Try making the conversation about your needs not about her faults, take the pressure off of her. I also think its very very important to have all the sexual expectations worked out before you actually marry. This is a very common problem for men it seems. Im not sure if its that women think its not their duty once they are married, but it tends to lead to cheating and divorce. So proper preplanning is imperative.

from peachykeen45, on 08:52pm, 04 Mar, 2012
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That's why i never got married .....

from sexy sarah 34k, on 08:58pm, 04 Mar, 2012
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Sorry i didn't read the first posting. Im not mocking your situation.
The key is communication.....

from sexy sarah 34k, on 09:00pm, 04 Mar, 2012
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of course it has to with miscarriage but only uu keep peasuring her that y u only get it once a month she most liking sore down there becuse ur crap at fore and dont make wet emough

from nikki34j, on 09:41pm, 04 Mar, 2012
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Women want stability once they have you they are guaranteed a mate and marriage gets them shit if you find out she's cheating which a lot do

from billy2121, on 10:18pm, 04 Mar, 2012
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I don't agree just because she doesn't have the same sex drive as he does does not mean shes cheating....and alot more men cheat than woman.....(rant over)....

from sexy sarah 34k, on 10:42pm, 04 Mar, 2012
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What was the sex like before you guys got married? Was she into it? Have things changed and if so, when did they change? If she has no sex drive at all, a trip to the doc is in order (although forcing her to go isn't ideal I know).

from TB12, on 01:20am, 05 Mar, 2012
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nobody stop sex after marriage.everyone do it with wife or xgfs lol

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