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Hey there. I'm 20 already, still a virgin. Not that thats a bad thing at all - I can wait for sex, but....I've never even kissed a girl, had a girlfriend, none of that stuff. I'm also really shy....any advice you can offer?

from ShyGuy70, on 10:06am, 30 Sep, 2010

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I'm the same as you. Only difference is I'm 35!

from Supes1975, on 03:20pm, 05 Oct, 2010
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A guy like you is some girls' wet dream, dude. Everybody likes a brand new car that's never been driven before. And there must be millions of 20 year old virgins in the world. What a find you're gonna be for the right girl! And shyness is a turnon for some.

from WesleyBoy37, on 12:50pm, 13 Dec, 2010
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hire a whore

from wetjane91, on 10:01pm, 20 Dec, 2010
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Wesley is 100% right. It's not a bad thing to be a virgin, it's cool. And it's common to still be a virgin by that age. It's no big deal.

The exact same thing with being shy. How many times have I seen a girl ignore the moron extrovert and start talking to the awkward, shy dude who hasn't said a word for three hours. Just take it easy, it'll happen eventually.

from Kelly_foster, on 11:33pm, 20 Dec, 2010
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Kelly has it right just take your time and it will all come your way.

from Dexmaster, on 04:04am, 27 Dec, 2010
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Nothing wrong with being a virgin. Wait for the right girl (or guy) it'll be worth it

from cumslut89, on 06:39am, 24 Jan, 2011
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its only sex...

from dannyboi99, on 11:40am, 24 Jan, 2011
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I can relate to you. I'm almost 20, still a virgin, never kissed a girl, never had a girlfriend or anything. Honestly, I don't mind that much. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself or anything. I'm pretty shy too. I'm just not in a place in my life where I think I could really handle a relationship right now.

The thing is that if you truly want a girlfriend, you have to throw yourself out there more. Find something you are really interested in and surround yourself with people with the same interests. Are you in school? You might find someone you really like in a club or a class. I've honestly found that when I initiate a conversation, people are much more open to talking to me and getting to know me. I talked to this one girl just randomly and talked about the weather, and she said hi to me a few days later randomly. It shows you are easy to relate to, and girls love a guy who is confident and they can really talk to. Sooner or later, you're bound to find a girl who you really like and want to get to know.

Good luck dude, it's hard sometimes. You just have to stay positive.

from StrippedNaked , on 10:21pm, 25 Jan, 2011
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Find bar with women, dress nice, go to bar, drink till inhibitions drop away, open mouth, talk to females.

Repeat as necessary.

from Funny Guy on 08:36am, 29 Jan, 2011
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don`t make too much pressure...just talk to girls and don`t think about just having sex with them, it is not worth it. try to get more relaxed in that way ;) just try to talk to women, even if they are not your type, just too get a feeling how it is to handle this situation and you will see it isn`t that hard. and don`t forget, you have NOTHING to loose about;)

from IlikeyourVAGINA, on 09:01pm, 02 Feb, 2011
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I never had a serious relationship either (alone for 2 years now), just some drunk club interaction. I'm not shy at all, girls love my clothing, body and behaviour. BUT, my self esteem is pretty low (because of never had a girlfriend). People can feel it somehow, and don't be passive. When it comes to approaching girls, well, I never really did it. More like talking with a friend of a friend. So these 2 things are important to work on (for me). But it's unkown territory, so dangerous. We just gotta do it. :)

from Music91, on 04:15pm, 07 Mar, 2011
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im a virgin too man, our lives are over

from Jonnyboy235, on 10:58pm, 12 Mar, 2011
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really.. it's not bad to be a virgin! Other guys would tease you about it but we think it's just fine. If a guy EVER brags to me how good he is or how many he has been with.... well I will be one less. That is SUCH a turnoff to me.

Look don't run to bars or something if that isn't your thing. Join a club or something. Volunteer. You will meet someone if you advertise your good traits about yourself and you are positive and honest.

And when that time comes, let her take control if she is experienced and let her teach you. If I met my soulmate and he was a virgin I would be thrilled.

from annabelleO, on 03:07pm, 11 Nov, 2011
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I'm a virgin too... at 45!! God that is sad.

Only joking. But think about it, there might be some who never make it - but fortunately very few. Very unfortunate for them, but not for us... lol

OK so here is the deal. You are suffering from a bit of a fixation problem. And as sex is such a primary and strong urge it is easy to fall into the trap.

So here is what you do. Absorb the following thoughts:

1) You are healthy and normal (so no reason for you not have sex)

2) You are at you sexual physical peak (so there are many women attracted to that.)

3) Sex is one of the most popular activities (after walking, eating, peeing, pooing, drinking, sleeping, and a few others - so the chances are good that you too will engage in it)

4) You are just part of (hu)mankind (visualise yourself, then you in your room, in your town, in your county, state, country, planet, solar system, etc. see the millions of people around you... see how small you are in the universe…you are really just a speck in the universe. Don’t make the problem bigger than what it really is. Fuck the shyness it is a wasted energy as you are almost insignificant in the grand scale of things, and your shyness really means nothing to no-one.

Be a decent person and friend to ladies. They also want someone special - be that person. There is no rocket science to this problem.

So if you spend enough time with a few ladies it will happen naturally at some stage. So make sure that you are around them at all opportunities, so that they can get familiar and comfortable with you.

It has been happeing for a long long looong time.

And why am I writing this on a year old thread? On a sex site? ...

I must be a retard.

from bigonlife, on 04:51am, 13 Nov, 2011
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Like Kelly_foster said. ... A lot of girls totally ignore that moron guy who is completely out there and hitting on her and go snuggle up with the guy across the room who has barely spoken ;) Happens all the time

from sex soph, on 02:09am, 25 Nov, 2011
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Trust me, its better to wait til the right time for your first time. Itll happen, you just have to be confident. Im a really shy guy and i thought id never get laid either. I actually did when i was 17 but thats a double-edged sword. Just wait til the perfect time. that way you dont lose your virginity to your first gf whose cheating on you with some ugly guy and pretending she loves you just so she can dump you brutally later...i rest my case.

from utahangel, on 07:19am, 24 Dec, 2011
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Don't let you're age or never having kissed be all that there is. Remain true to yourself and pursue your dreams...everything else will fall into place!

...kisses

from MsGirlyGirl , on 02:51am, 02 Jan, 2012
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don't put it on such a pedestal, if you're making a big deal out of it (i don't mean this as an insult to you, or to be negative) other people will too.

get yourself out there more, make more of an effort to talk to girls, make new friends, mix in new circles.

i used to be incredibly shy and such a social retard until one day a friend of mine asked me why i was so shy, i honestly couldn't answer her. i don't think anyone knows why their shy but in the end i started to tell myself 'whats the worse that could happen?', if i go up to that guy and give him my number, whats the worst that will come from it? he'll say sorry i've got a gf, or sorry i'm not interested, that's it, that's all that's gonna happen, and i know to be knocked back will knock your confidence but then remind yourself what you just achieved, that you managed to go up to a complete stranger and offer them your number, that you managed to make that move.

honestly just try it, and just remind yourself whats the worst that will happen :)

from femfatale , on 12:56pm, 08 Jan, 2012